Staying Happy When You’re Hurting

It is never easy to mend a broken heart. Usually, it takes time to completely heal and forget about the love you lost. However, it doesn’t mean you have to go through the whole process all sad and pining over what you no longer have.

There are still many reasons for you to stay happy despite the broken heart. Here are some of them:

You have more time for yourself

Now that you have zero love life, you have ample time for yourself. You no longer have to worry about picking up your partner at work or arranging dinner or romantic dates. In addition, you get to do things which you often neglect doing because of your busy love life. Since you have more time for yourself now, you can try on a new hobby or sport which interests you.

You can spend more time with your family

Being committed often makes us spend less time with our family. However, now that you no longer have a partner to spend most of your time with, you can spend some quality time with your family. Visit your parents or siblings. Strengthen your family ties by doing activities with your family. You can travel or go to the beach together.

You can date other men/women (Be careful not to jump into ths too fast!)

When you were in a relationship, you were exclusive only for each other. Now that you have freedom in your hands, you can always go back in the dating scene. Go to parties and meet other singles like you. You can even ask out your friends who interest you before or go on a blind date for more excitement.

You can hang out with your friends often

Taking care of your partner often eats up most of your time. There were
points in your life wherein you no longer spent time with your friends because of your partner. Now is the time to make up for them. Invite them out, party together, or just spend some time with them. Mind you, their presence can also help you forget about your broken heart.

You can stay happy even if you are not in a relationship. There are many things to do which can entertain and help you stay happy despite other factors like losing someone you love.

Now, if you still love your ex and would like to win him/her back, then by all means give it a try! But if they have flat out told you they no longer care for you, then be strong and move on.

How Can I Tell If My Ex Boyfriend Still Likes Me? A Simple Observation Will Expose the Truth!

You broke up with your guy and now you find yourself thinking about him and wondering if your boyfriend still likes you. Instead of spending countless hours, days, or even years wondering what his true feelings are, your best bet is to pay attention to what he's asking. I'm not talking about what he's asking you (though this advice will certainly apply to that as well), but more so what he's asking of others.

See, people that are in love generally like to know what the person they're in love with is doing - how his/her life is going, if they found a new partner, anything. In the cases where two loving couples break up, there will likely be some attempt of one or both to keep tabs on the other. I'm not talking about stalking! I'm just talking about maintaining a general interest.

For example, does your ex boyfriend still communicate with your Mother, Father or maybe a Brother or Sister? If so, gently ask your family what is being discussed. If you start hearing things like "oh, he/she just asks how you're doing" or "they're wondering if you found anyone else" or even "they're wondering how you're doing with the break up". These are all indicators of someone with lingering feelings.

However, there are some boyfriends that harbor lingering feelings yet never utter a word about it to anyone. Some girlfriends are the same way. It doesn't mean they don't still care (though they may not), it could mean that they just don't want to be hurt again, and they think the best way to not be hurt again is to act like you have no remaining interest.

Having lingering feelings isn't bad. In fact, you asking this question is a pretty decent indicator that you still have some lingering feelings for your ex boyfriend, and that's not a bad thing, either. Even the best relationships go through temporary break ups and separations. The most unfortunate part is when two loving couples break up and neither ever takes the necessary actions to reconnect with their partner.

Do you want to make your ex boyfriend run back to you? My ex left me and I used some simple methods that got her running back to me.

See my amazing story on how I won my ex back.

Losing Your Love and Dealing With the Holidays - Sucks!

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy and happiness. You spend time with family, friends, and most importantly, the person you're in love with. The problem is, you just broke up. This could through a real big monkey wrench in your holiday happiness.

What do you do in this circumstance?

Nothing, really. If it was your first holiday after your break up, then there's just no getting around it, this holiday simply won't be the same for you.

But take note that it will get easier in time. If you lost your boyfriend or girlfriend and it was never a strong relationship then you're probably better off without them. You'll find someone else. Plenty of fish in the sea, as my Mom used to say. LOL.

However, if you're having second thoughts about the split, and you miss the good times you had with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, then maybe you should try to reconnect with them.

Sometime relationships break up for all the wrong reason - perfectly good relationships. If you feel your relationship needs a second chance then go after it! Make that your New Year resolution - to win back the love that made you happy.

Believe me, I was in this boat. The holidays flat out sucked after our break up. In fact, life sucked. We're back together now and couldn't be happier.

Whatever you do, good luck!